Self-Esteem Therapy
Low self-esteem isn't always obvious from the outside.
Some people with very low self-worth are high-achieving, well-liked, and appear confident. What others don't see is the constant internal commentary — the way every mistake confirms something shameful, the way compliments slide off while criticism sticks, the exhausting effort of performing adequacy while never quite believing it.
What low self-esteem looks like
- A persistent inner critic that's harsher than you'd ever be to anyone else
- Difficulty accepting positive feedback — deflecting, minimizing, or waiting for it to be taken back
- Over-apologizing, deferring, or making yourself small in groups or relationships
- Comparing yourself unfavorably to others across most dimensions — achievement, appearance, likability
- Difficulty making decisions, driven by fear of getting it wrong
- Avoiding opportunities because you've already decided you won't succeed
- Shame that feels like a baseline state rather than a response to something specific
How therapy helps
Low self-esteem is often rooted in early messages — from family, peers, culture, or formative experiences — that got internalized as facts. Therapy helps you examine those messages, understand where they came from, and build a more accurate and compassionate relationship with yourself.
This is slower work than a confidence workshop, but it's more durable. The goal isn't to feel good about yourself all the time — it's to stop being undermined by a version of yourself that was formed under conditions that no longer apply.
Telehealth across Oregon
All sessions are via telehealth. We work with adults across Oregon.
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